Mary Abbajay rocked our world. Her impact on our organization was profound and immediate. Her presentation helped every one of us work better together by understanding how to tailor our different communication and collaboration styles. In two short hours, she provided us with useful skills and concepts that we immediately put to use in our daily activities. It was as close to a magic wand as I have ever seen. I would recommend Mary to any and all organizations where robust working relationships matter. In fact, I already have. Cary Hatch, President, MDB Communications
If you are looking for a phenomenal presenter, look no further. Mary Abbajay is a fabulous leader and presenter! Her energy exudes into the entire room and into others’ spirits…our leadership team loved the interactivity and engagement. Mary has been one of the most successful and memorable presenters we've ever had. ­Terrence S Kenny, Market President, Metro Washington, Baltimore and Delaware, TD Bank
Mary Abbajay was the right measure of humour and wisdom for a group of demanding CEOs and Board Chairs. She has the ability to engage an audience and deliver important insights in a thoroughly delightful way. After her keynote, for the rest of the conference, everyone who presented used the insights learned to expand on their own presentation. I have seen Mary Abbajay present to front-line employees, managers and most recently to CEOs and Board Chairs, her enthusiasm and honesty work at every level. I highly recommend her as your next keynote speaker. Lidia Soto-Harmon, CEO, Girl Scouts Nation’s Capital
The results are in and our members have spoken. They want more Mary Abbajay. Her presentation hit home runs across the board. I have received nothing but rave reviews and requests for more "Mary Abbajay" events. My only regret is that we didn't book her sooner. Heather M. Raspberry, Executive Director, Housing Association of Nonprofit Developers
Everybody absolutely loved Mary Abbajay’s Managing Up, Down, & Across presentation! It was the hit of our entire conference. Her talk was incredibly relevant, interactive, and fun. Mary is exceptional at getting involvement from the whole group…and she is a riot! Our folks haven’t stopped talking about it since. Several of our business lines have already invited her back to present to their customers and clients. Ken Jones, Vice President, Global Development Team. Turner Construction Company
If you've ever left a job because of an unbearable boss, you're not alone. But quitting isn’t your only recourse. If you follow the wise counsel of Mary Abbajay, you can learn how to ‘manage your manager.' MANAGING UP is full of savvy advice for improving your relationship with your boss and getting the most out of your job. Daniel H. Pink author of DRIVE and WHEN
A refreshing take on managing your career! No more excuses for why you’re unhappy at work and can’t achieve your goals. Abbajay proves you can succeed with any type of boss – you just have to ditch the drama, accept the boss you have, and understand that the only person you can change is yourself. An empowering read for employees at every stage of their career! Cy Wakeman New York Times Bestselling Author and Drama Researcher Newest book is No Ego, How leaders can cut the cost of workplace drama, end entitlement and drive big results
What makes Abbajay’s book stand out is its direct no-nonsense approach to managing up. It’s a virtual how-to book for working with any boss packed with specific ways to deal with different higher ups. A triumph of a book. Alex Orfinger, Executive Vice President, American City Business Journals
Mary Abbajay’s knowledge and experience in understanding leadership styles is as extensive as it is terrific! Her advice is relevant, accurate and deployable in the modern workplace. Jeffery M Rubery, Washington DC Market President, BB&T Bank
A refreshing and empowering take on managing your career. Abbajay presents a proactive—and pragmatic guide to understanding your boss and taking control of your own career path. Muriel Maignan Wilkins, Co-Author, Own the Room: Discover Your Signature Voice to Master Your Leadership Presences & Co-Founder, Paravis Partners
This is a no-B.S. guide to decoding “The Boss” and navigating various management styles to advance your career (without losing your soul). Really a “must read” for people looking to maximize their career opportunities and young professionals aspiring to accelerate their success. Cary Hatch, CEO, Brand Advocate MDB Communications
Managing Up is NOT a soft, passive approach to managing your career. It is a strong, proactive guide to understanding your boss and taking control of your own career path. Michael Klein, Past Executive Vice President MTV & Condé Nast Entertainment
Abbajay’s keen understanding of personality and leadership styles is unmatched! This is the book you need to read to achieve your best career possible. Douglas M. Duncan, President and CEO Leadership Greater Washington
Abbajay offers fantastic tips and insight for all career stages - every last word is a gem of career advice that will empower your approach to managing your career and your boss. A must read! Diana Echevarria, Director Newman’s Own Foundation Fellowship Program
As a business owner managing hundreds of personalities, Abbajay’s advice and perspective is refreshing and very needed to cut through the noise of the management book genre. I cannot wait to share copies with my team and discuss how we can ALL play a role in managing a great company. Gina Schaefer, Founder and CEO A Few Cool Hardware Stores/Former ACE Hardware Board Member
Managing Up is a critical skill for career success and Mary Abbajay has written the definitive guide. Managing Up is full of practical advice and tips that will help you (and your boss!) succeed. Steve Ressler Founder GovLoop.com
I'm reading Managing Up after having a rough year in my career and realizing managing up is a big weakness of mine. Just wanted to say how impressed I am with your insights in the book. The descriptions of different types of bosses really seem to come from a place of experience and dare I say…wisdom. Having dealt this year with a full-blown and (I'm certain) clinical narcissist, I'm shocked at how spot-on each paragraph of that chapter is. You must have quite a bit of first-hand experience with this type. The statements about protecting your self-esteem and not getting sucked in are almost chilling to me. (How can this type be so common that it can be categorized so accurately? How is this type so repeatable? How can people allow this and not stand up against it? Are narcissists taking over the world? I think you could write another book just on this topic).

To conclude, I have read a lot of business and self-help type books. Much of what is out there is generic and re-hashed. I'm in the middle of Managing Up but just had to stop to say how fresh and insightful your writing is which is very nice to see. I hope there are more books to come! Senior Commodity Manager, Dynamic Manufacturing Solutions
In a world where we all must be more entrepreneurial to keep pace with the rapid changes in technology and the jobs we do, Managing Up is an important tool kit for people looking to keep up. Leadership comes from above and below–if you know how to do it. Read this book. Jonathan Aberman Managing Director, Amplifier Ventures
As a relatively new employee at the Federal Energy Regulatory Commission, the career advice that you presented today was highly inspiring and informative. I particularly enjoyed your discussion on identifying whether a boss is introverted or extroverted. I also greatly enjoyed providing the closing remarks for your presentation and wish that I could have stayed later to talk about the book and your experiences. Economist, Federal Energy Regulatory Commission
I just wanted to let you know, I’ve ordered this wonderful book called “Managing Up”, written by a fabulous lady by the name of Mary Abbajay. What started out as a conversation piece, which turned into a guide for my direct reports, has now grown into a learning tool for my entire department…. Mary Abbajay Rocks!!! Thank you for the sound career advice! Manager of Events, Great Minds
Our members haven’t stopped talking about your workshop! We really enjoyed having you back to speak at our Leadership Development Program. Thanks for a wonderful and interactive workshop! United Bank


MANAGING UP: How to Move Up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss by Mary Abbajay

“If you've ever left a job because of an unbearable boss, you're not alone. But quitting isn’t your only recourse. If you follow the wise counsel of Mary Abbajay, you can learn how to ‘manage your manager.’ MANAGING UP is full of savvy advice for improving your relationship with your boss and getting the most out of your job.”

—Daniel H. Pink, author of DRIVE and WHEN

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